Interesting. I did CBT for a couple of years and it was mostly about reframing extreme thoughts— eg you catch yourself thinking “I’m unlovable” and remind yourself it’s more like “my last two relationships ended poorly”.
It wasn’t exactly what I needed but I didn’t see much potential for harm. Is there more to CBT than what I did, or are there situations where that type of thinking can make things worse?
I’m not really an expert on this, but a major piece is the idea that fears (and our thoughts about them) aren’t based in reality. Often times for ND people, they are indeed based in reality. Changing how we think about these things doesn’t help, and can often harm.
It’s obviously very personal, YMMV, but there are good alternatives in many cases.
Interesting. I did CBT for a couple of years and it was mostly about reframing extreme thoughts— eg you catch yourself thinking “I’m unlovable” and remind yourself it’s more like “my last two relationships ended poorly”.
It wasn’t exactly what I needed but I didn’t see much potential for harm. Is there more to CBT than what I did, or are there situations where that type of thinking can make things worse?
I’m not really an expert on this, but a major piece is the idea that fears (and our thoughts about them) aren’t based in reality. Often times for ND people, they are indeed based in reality. Changing how we think about these things doesn’t help, and can often harm.
It’s obviously very personal, YMMV, but there are good alternatives in many cases.
That makes a lot of sense, thank you.