Behaviorbabe

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Hmm. I work in a high stress field. As in, behavioral modification. I get hit a lot. It does impact me over time. So what I do to manage my emotions is taking the time to take it easy on myself. I make that space. One hour after work every day (not counting the drive) where I am just alone with my thoughts and doomscrolling before I let anyone else place any demands on me (myself included). You sound a little bit like me before I burned out originally a few years ago and put some boundaries in place where self-care is concerned. That one hour did wonders.

“You’re still upset about that?”

The writers

“Why don’t you just…?” And it be the most obvious alternative or solution OR fundamentally at odds with me as a person.

Example: I did not choose or want to breast feed.

“Why don’t you breast feed, blah blah blah unwanted and unnecessary advice.” Multiple times. I guess these types of questions are intended to give the asker some sort of downward social reference.

Something new every day. Create. Spend time with my children. Volunteer my time and knowledge.

I want a community that values feedback. Downvotes are a form of feedback (low response effort too!) that anyone who is a part of that can choose to engage with, even people who don’t want a comment history at all. I have used them in the past to reflect on myself, and the community I was a part of as well.

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Situational.

First, if it’s directed at me, I do not engage. Like, at all. If someone is trying to get my attention with shitty behavior, they’re not getting it. If it’s the guy on my discord meme channel who posts incel memes, I really have do have to remind myself not to engage. That one is harder, because I feel like they’re taking away from the quality of the space, I don’t want them in my orbit AT ALL, but they are part of the greater community, and this channel sort of quarantines their brain vomit. So again, I never engage with them, but I deliberately engage with other posters and community members who are productive and positive. In the short term, it’s not rewarding, but in the long term I do feel much better about myself. And finally, sometimes I really do need to step away–maybe it’s into another game, another community, etc. Sometimes I do need to take a break, seek other forms of entertainment and reinforcement. The main thing is not to continuously expose yourself to things that are aversive to you and just stress and stress. You have to break it somehow.

Regularly? Nothing. I go there to access material most of the time.

Op, are you sure you’re not a chat bot?

I watch those sometimes too. Pilots are amazing.

That sounds spectacular, thanks friend!

Coworker of mine admitted to using this for writing treatment plans. Super unethical and unrepentant about it. Why? Treatment plans are individual, and contain PII. I used it for research a few times and it returned sources that are considered bunk at best and hated within the community for their history. So I just went back to my journal aggregation.

Okay so I’m a nerd. I didn’t get into YouTube until recently and I just watch storm chasers, airplanes taking off, and power washing/landscaping porn.

Haha yeah. Meanwhile if you take that same trip in other places the roads slowly become dirt, then trails, then fields.

Behavior therapy. Once I move I’ll be completely remote. New England is also weird because little towns get nestled into what you might assume are county roads.

Cut my hours back at work, maybe take a sabbatical spend much more time with my kids, and go to art school. I’m pretty good at it, but it wasn’t in the trailer park cards.

No one has mentioned sensory overload, but it’s the main reason I see it.