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  • I’m purely guessing but if the internal staffing is not changed when a new administration, than the office culture, makeup, structure, purpose, and outcome should stay roughly the same.

    Only if the office is forced to reform under each administration would it really change. If it was working fine for the Tories, they’d leave it. If anyone else thought it needed to be overhauled they might have done it.

    This is what people mean when they talk about the Deep State, though they whisper it conspiratorially.

    It’s government professionals, doing their jobs day in and out, no matter who rules the henhouse.














  • I’ll give a hopeful one:

    Many years ago I was in a hopeless and hellish state. Unemployed, sleeping on a cot in my parents basement, my health failing me, and recently bankrupt.

    I was suicidal but not to the point of having ideation. “You should just kill yourself” was a common refrain of my internal monologue.

    Then I read something on reddit like “How long would you stay friends with someone who talks to you the way you talk to yourself?”

    So I started on a serious effort to remove that from my thoughts. It was 2008, and Obama was running against McCain. I liked them both but was definitely in Obama’s camp.

    I tried replacing “You should just kill yourself” with “You should just kill John McCain.”

    And it worked! That shocked me out of that self hatred long enough to start to laugh it off.

    A little time went by, I met someone, got a job. The someone convinced me to get surgery for my issues. (a hernia but I didn’t think fixing that would even help the overall stuff I was fighting)

    We have been married almost a decade. Nine years in the house I got her when I got a better job. I work from home hanging out with all our animals.

    Things CAN get better. There’s never a guarantee but it’s worthwhile to not give up. You can climb that mountain, dig that tunnel, whatever you need to make that journey through the darkness.

    And I left a LOT of shit out of that story.







  • Pronell@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlIs it too late to date for me?
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    11 months ago

    You don’t need to be thin to date. I’ve been a fat man my whole life, introverted and introspective, spent most of my life alone.

    My first relationship wasn’t until about your age. I married her because I thought I’d always be alone otherwise. It was a mistake and I was wrong.

    Took a long time to figure myself out, only had two other real relationships and a few nonstarters, then met my wife when I was almost 40.

    I’m still fat. So what?