I ended up going very low contact with my arch-conservative family. Parents, sister and brother are all very right wing and loud about it. I haven’t spoken with my siblings in over a decade and speak to my parents about twice a year.
It has made my life calmer and more peaceful.
Refugee here too, so still figuring it out. fmhy is making a comeback and has backups, so nothing is lost. All I did when I figured out vlemmy was dead was make another account on another instance (this one). Lost a couple of posts and a few comments, but nothing I’ll miss.
What was the instance? fmhy has lost its .ml domain. Same thing happened to me with vlemmy when it disappeared
In Australia, this means putting your friend into check.