Yeah this is a weird spot with who really wants to control things. I would argue anyone with a strong opinion one way or the other should probably self host. Those that can’t will need to find an instance where their views line up with the instance admin.

Ultimately I think you’re right though, instance admin has final say since uh, they’re the admin. Anyone who wants to admin a huge instance probably would leave it open for users to decide though.

Yeah everything feels so raw still. But I don’t mind it yet. I pretty much learn something new every 6 hours or so because of all the content that’s getting added to the big instances. It’s been an exciting honeymoon period.