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Cake day: August 2nd, 2023

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  • Thing is Ukraine doesn’t have a defense pact with the US. The US is doing this out of (insert any number of reasons ranging from stability in the region, strengthening ties, propping up military manufacturers etc).

    The Philippines have had a defense pact with the US since 1951 and basically means if things can’t be resolved diplomatically the US will commit not just arms but fighting forces to the joint defense of the nation.

    To quote Wikipedia - ‘In a 2022 meeting, US Vice-President Kamala Harris reportedly assured Philippine president Bongbong Marcos that “an armed attack on the Philippines armed forces, public vessels, or aircraft in the South China Sea would invoke US Mutual Defense commitments.”’




  • I’ve had a similar experience with online dating - chatting with people, then went on multiple dates where it became obvious they didn’t actually want a relationship (although I was quite open about the fact that I did) or they were just not a good match for me. I agree with a comment higher as well about the ‘spark’ thing as I was realising I just wasn’t feeling that with any of them. I’ve had people say before that they were just on them for validation rather than having any intent on dating.

    That said, I actually deleted Hinge about a month ago as I was just kinda sick of it and one of the people I’d been on a date with prior (who I actually did have a spark for but the date was just a bit odd as we hadn’t quite ‘clicked’ with our interaction styles yet and I suck at actually flirting) wanted to catch up again. We’ve been dating exclusively for over a month now.

    I’ll agree with your comment about the disparity as we joked about our online dating experiences - she’d been on some 20-30 dates and in even more conversations with guys after being on it for 4 weeks. I had been on 5 dates and 12-odd chats in 6 months and a lot of those chats just ended up going nowhere when you ask engaging questions and get either absolutely nothing or single word replies.






  • I’ve known quite a few people/groups that are poly and I dated someone who was poly for a while too. I did it because I didn’t feel like I had to deal with 100% of my partner because that would have crushed me.

    My info is purely anecdotal but two super common threads that kept on appearing is there were people who were poly, but were never actually poly and just said it because their partner wanted to be so they said they were too and that the people who were super committed to poly all were trying to fill a gap in their lives and had a lot of insecurities in general.

    Most hated the idea of ever being alone, not just in ‘a relationship’ but actually just being by themselves.