Agree completely. I had a well curated feed on Reddit developed over years and years of careful pruning. I miss a ton of those communities and forgot what the open funnel of Internet sewage was like. Even just a few minutes on the front page of any social media network is enough to send me back to books and blogs. Lol
I won’t hold the Boxxy against you. Lol. Thanks for the reply and encouragement. Trying is the best we can do and hopefully it makes a difference in the end. I advocate for all the other parents I encounter to try and be aware of what’s out there, it’s not like it was when I was growing up where the worst that could happen is you’d end up cybering with some creepy old dude. But that’s hard for folks to do when they too are distracted by the asshole parade that is most social media.
I appreciate a thoughtful response as well. If we’re all diligent we can keep that discourse as the standard here and maybe continue to live in that early internet era that Lemmy had in the beginning. Much like Portlandia, the dream of the 90’s is alive on the fediverse.
Cheers friend!
That’s absolutely where it was at. Thanks friend! Now I have a more curated approach and can avoid the stuff that makes me have global warming, totalitarian regime panic attacks. Haha
You mean a brave patriotic eagle! America’s awesome upgrade to the bog standard owl.
Yeah but this is an AMERICAN PRESIDENTIAL ELECTION YEAR!!!
that’s like the super bowl of elections
Sent from my freedom phone motherfucker
It’s a bit on an echo chamber. The world is frustrated with us. But if you are in another country as an American, you’ll be judged more by your actions usually. In my personal experience most people still understand that there’s 2 Americas and a little bit of humility and humbility is all it takes to be seen as more than a red hat and a flag.
It’s so easy for them to fall in to those holes. I’m currently half way though my 19th year of being a father to a what is now a fellow man.
That’s a loaded statement, but trust that he arrived there on his own. We had some amazing conversations along the way about; what gender meant to him, what the words gay and stright meant, hell we discussed what his fursona “could” be.
That one scared me, I was on b long enough ago that furf*g (sorry y’all) was still a term that I had defined 20 years ago without reassessment until the moment the 13 year old that was my favorite human brought it up over greasy appetizers at Applebee’s during a 4 day LAN party. Man, those kids that were sightly older than him with tails and ears were his everything at that event. Haha
Anyways, all along the way I’ve been part of his dialog with “the Internet”. I’ve done it as a very active user and a long time lurker. I still have irc channels I idle in and I still remember epic gets going back to 1 million. I was a boxy hater and you’ll never convince me otherwise even as the shoe head shit comes back as lame ass Q pedo baiting for 40 something neckbeards with poor relationship skills and amazing commander decks. (trigger warning for keyboard warriors that are really going through it, I hope you find grass some day).
I digress. What I have seen and tried with all my ability to do is steer him from being someone incapable of true human interaction and empathy despite natural bias. I think I got there but it wasn’t without tours through Wikipedia articles about misogyny, incel culture and feminism. It wasn’t without incredibly frustrating moments where I didn’t get why the fuck you’d spend hours a day on YouTube being fed what ever shit the algorithm served you. But I asked if we could go over his watch history and I had honest conversations with him about Andrew Tate and that culture. We did. I think I made things better by doing it too. Either way, there’s millions of dudes out there who never had that and it sucks. But advertisers know that nothing sells better than anger, unless it’s loneliness.
No matter what though, we may be an anomaly. And I understand why some can’t help but yell online in impotent rage. The only path they see to actualizing that is through a barrel. My neighboring high school senior year was the site of one of the first mass school shootings in America some 25 years ago. Now I’ve normalized active shooter drills and had legit discussions with my ex-wife about bulletproof backpacks. The fuck are we doing?
It’s a travesty we don’t have the support systems in place for anybody that doesn’t have the means for self sufficiency and it’s ever more so that we have created systems that further deny that for those that would benefit most from them. I don’t have an answer. Wish I did because it would sure give me something to write a manifesto about and possibly even inspire a lifestyle change to the Vegas strip with a belt pack microphone. That always seemed like an interesting reality. Alas, I’ll continue to live in a medium sized town, building a bug out NAS and hoping shit doesn’t get so hot I’m too exhausted to enjoy the fallout.
Stay safe out there. And thanks for letting a 40 something CIS dude monopolize the Internet once again.
/rant
As a straight white American male, word.
And, sorry (that’s my greeting, lol. no one seems to ask why when you’re 40, bearded, chubby and white, they just nod in silent agreement).
Some people just don’t like others to have nice things. Even if it’s something that should be as simple as tolerance at worst and acknowledgement and acceptance at best. A diverse community creates a better world, it can also cause stress for folks that are afraid of change. Thank you for being part of this one and sharing your experiences so any of us that are listening can self analyze and be better in the future. Please be patient with the slower ones as they are drug Cialis first into the modern world.
Sometimes it’s hard to see yourself through a narrow lens.
It’s amazing how quickly the Internet ruins the Internet. Hopefully we can work together through defederation and as a community that doesn’t just let shit slide to keep that 00’s era chat and forum feel alive. Either way, good luck out there!
I’ll try that as well. I landed on BaconReader (RIP) for the other site. Haven’t found quite the same fit with Lemmy apps. Always down to try a new one though. Thanks!
I might as well have support escalate it. Obviously the UX and UI teams aren’t overworked enough.
I’ll give that a look. Thanks
Cheers, thanks for the tip. I’ll like around and see if it’s a pebkac on my end.
On a related note. Is there an Android Lemmy app that allows me to view my subs as a homepage? It’s only local and all in Voyager.
I’m now shitting in my bathtub…
Same here my friend! They nailed the name.
I ask purely out of laziness for something I’m sure I could find in a basic search far shorter than this post, but, what exactly is a tankie? I see it used here as a (I assume) derogatory term but the definition is never obvious based on context clues… I assume something, something pro-CCP / Tianemen massacre?
I know it’s not the most popular opinion but, I’ve really been enjoying the reboot from last year.
Despite a lot of the derision against it there really is a ton of saints row 2 at its core. I think it being wrapped in an updated world built around characters that are more representative of the time the game was made lead to a lot of people not understanding that at its core, it was still a pretty faithful reboot.
I’m not advocating that you jump out and purchase it right away. But, if you’re ever in the mood I highly recommend giving it a shot. I picked it up as soon as it landed on steam and found it pretty damn enjoyable.
I recently started carrying one of these in my travel kit. Absolutely recommended for just that reason.
It’s like humility will a little extra thank you. Lol