I’ll go first: “You have to have children when you’re young,” told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.

Also: Responding to “How do I deal with this problem?” questions with “Oh, don’t worry about it, it’s enough that you’re even thinking about it!”

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    When I would have a problem with my body like shoulder impingement and ask for advice, I would often be told by people “nah, you’re too young too have that”

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      My wife (in her 30s) got shingles and doctors / people at the pharmacy said the same thing. “only people over 50 get that!”

      She was in a lot of pain. 0/10 would not recommend getting shingles.

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        Yeah I got shingles at the age of 42, apparently extremely high stress/anxiety can trigger it. I agree, that shit sucks.

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        Strange, my friend got that when a teenager and doctors said yup, that’s chicken pox round 2, makes sense.

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      Hey, what did you end up doing about that? I allegedly have one in my left shoulder and the doctor is acting like there’s not really anything I can do about it.

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        I saw a physio, they gave me some exercises which didn’t help. I did a bunch of reading online and followed that advice and it worked.

        1. sleeper stretch
        2. external rotations from a stretched position, or sleeper stretch repetitions while holding a 2-4kg dumbbell
        3. serratus strengthening exercises

        https://www.healthline.com/health/sleeper-stretch

        I had quite bad impingement from months of poor exercise selection at the gym. Changed the routine to be balanced internal/external rotation, did 1/2 above 1-2 times a day. Took a few months but now it’s completely better. I still do the stretching as a prehab now.

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        It bugs me when told “nothing you can do” what they really mean is “the problem is chronic so the recovery will take a long time. Patient compliance is often very low and most people won’t last the months required for a solution so I’m not going to waste my time. I can help more people if I focus my efforts elsewhere.” If you’re willing to put in the time, you can fix this. And I suggest you do, if you do nothing impingement inflames each time it happens, decreasing the space in your shoulder, increasing the likelihood, etc.