I’m an introvert and I like going to work to do my job and go home. I don’t understand people who use a job as a substitute for friendship or marriage. It’s a means to an end.
The sooner I do my duties, the longer my downtime is going to be, and I love having my downtime.
Many of my colleagues see me and immediately start asking questions I don’t want to answer, but neither do I want to hurt their feelings, I mostly want to be left alone. In the past this has been deconstructed as arrogance and people with fragile egos feel insulted by my indifference to them and that I prefer to work than to talk to them.
The world is made by extroverts. I have observed that people are eager to help you if you give them attention. I don’t get it, but neither I’m not going to change how extroverts think or feel.
If I give them the attention they need for as long as they need it I’m going to end up with daily headaches and neither my job nor theirs is going to be done.
I want to appear approachable, but keeping the info I feed them to a minimum. How do I do that?
What do you talk about to your coworkers?
What do you say to stop conversation organically? (meaning they don’t get offended).
It’s amazing how much you can make someone squirm by just giving them silent eye contact. Being autistic I basically have to manually calculate the appropriate amount of eye contact for any given interaction so I’m kind of an expert at this. Get it even a fraction of a second off and people tend to react way more than most people would imagine.
I’m also autistic lol, eye contact is so fickle
Lol. Course you are. I’m sure now that i’ve mentally registered your username I’ll be seeing it on all the subs i’m already on.
Had a look through your comment history to see how likely that was…
I also use Linux, I have an interest in FOSS for the purpose of privacy, I don’t knit but I crochet, im interested in self hosting, and I follow neurodivergency focused subs as well. See you around lol